Relationships
I can't stand interpersonal relationships. Whether they are friendships, acquaintances, or love affairs, they have one thing in common, at least in my eyes: They are complicated and painful.
Some may shake their heads outraged now, but I have my reasons for making this claim.
I'll start with the normal acquaintances. One example is, for example, classmates at school. Many only know the students of their year with whom they went to the same class, which is why they sit somewhat lost among all the strangers in the courses.
Some say now, it's great to make new acquaintances and friends. That sounds so easy, in my experience, is trying to get into one of the solid groups, jumping into the shark tank.
Most of the time you are lucky that everyone else from the course already knows each other and can have a lively conversation before the start of the class. At least I feel pretty stupid when I stand around alone, I always get the feeling that I'm being stared at or blasphemed about the fact that I'm not in any of the circles.
You can say what you want, but children, who we all - including myself - are just now, are bad. They're sneaky, naughty, and pretty mean.
So what do you do as a not very extroverted person whose circle is not in any of your own courses? Right, put on your swimsuit and enjoy yourself.
Carefully in each subsequent break, stalk up to the most social of the groups, address individual people in the group in class, select them for partner work, or suggest the solutions. If you know someone, it's like a ticket, at least a reason why you suddenly stand by them. This prevents surprised looks and embarrassing questions.
So when you've got that behind you, you can just as carefully try to develop this community of convenience into an acquaintance.
I am a person who involuntarily attaches great importance to what others think and say about me. I want to be a part of it so that I don't fall into your area of ​​attention when you understand what I mean.
I explain it in more detail, if you stand around alone, as just mentioned, it can happen that you unintentionally become a topic of conversation. But if you stand in a circle and are overlooked, you can both catch the latest gossip and avoid the square as the center.
Well, by now it should be clear that my statements only refer to people of my kind ...
Now let's get to friendships. Something that, in my opinion, is even more difficult than acquaintance.
So if you belong to one of the circles and have developed something like friendship with someone, or if you have friends from the old class, there are new problems.
There are two categories:
First, true friends who understand and listen,
Second, friends who really don't deserve to be called that.
The second category is self-evident, made up of people who only like you for money, clothes, and status.Or they want to squeeze secrets out of you in order to keep gossiping them, in order to look better themselves.
Problems are obvious here, right?
The second is a little different. If you are really and truly lucky enough to find a friend, there are still some pitfalls. For example, you may have lost trust in previous false friends and you cannot open up at the beginning. But true friends have patience.
It only gets complicated when friendship swings into love. Whether one-sided or two-sided is completely irrelevant at the beginning, in my opinion. Mutual love only becomes happy when both know about each other's feelings, otherwise it is quite annoying.
One-sided love is a very stupid thing. Suppose your best friend confesses love to you. What to say Sorry i don't love you You will probably never see him as a normal friend again, you don't try to hurt him unnecessarily, which doesn't always work. Who said again, “Friendship can become love, but love no friendship?” I have no idea, I picked it up somewhere and admit he or she is right, at least in my experience.
When there are also two good friends who are very close to each other, it becomes even more painful and complicated, as expected. But enough of that.
Relationships, if used incorrectly, cause pain and chaos. But if you don't dare, you won't win ...